How to Introduce BDSM into Your Relationship
At the beginning of a relationship, you’re likely experiencing the intense excitement of sexual connection with a new person. However, fast-forward past the honeymoon stage, and you might miss the adrenaline or a thrill of the new and the unknown. In fact, you may even begin to feel sexual frustration or a desire to once again, seek excitement and fulfilment in other ways.
So, you’re probably thinking — where does BDSM come into this?
To start, BDSM stands for: Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission/Sadism and Masochism. Some different practices may include:
- Using Bondage Restraints. A popular restraint is rope, and can be used for tieing hands together or to furniture.
- Pain play. This one sounds scary, but it doesn’t have to be. It can be simple stimulation and sensitivity play with toys such as pinwheels.
We’ll talk about the different practices more in another article, so don’t forget to follow us.
How can I introduce BDSM into my relationship?
You may feel afraid to introduce the idea to your partner — and that’s okay. Why not subtly instigate the conversation around BDSM by sharing some erotic fiction, or perhaps a video?
If they react well, you may wish to browse toys that you can experiment with. Subana has a broad selection of BDSM toys for beginners.
Some beginner toys may include:
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A Blindfold — An arousing way to heighten your senses as you are placed in a position of vulnerability. The thrill of feeling different sensations that you cannot anticipate, and trusting your partner with your body as they touch, caress and play, has actually shown to strengthen a relationship. You may wish to pair this experience with rope restraints.
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Rope — There are various ways to use rope, whether it be for tieing your partners arms and legs into restraint positions; using rope around the breasts to enhance their sensitivity; or in this case (what we recommend for beginners), tieing your partners ankles and/or wrists to the bed. This will restrict their movement, and elements of trust, control and physical communication come into play, enhancing sexual sensation.
Did you know? A survey shows that 12.7m of Brits have been tied up for sex. - Paddle — Spanking. Often used in the form of role play as ‘punishment’. Our smooth edged bamboo paddle is the perfect tool to get started. When spanking, try to avoid focusing on one spot over and over again, and instead, use the paddle to spank a larger area of the bottom. Try massaging the skin before and between the spankings to avoid bruising. You may also wish to play with the level of force, particularly if the recipient is blindfolded, as it increases the anticipation and excitement of the unknown.
Can BDSM benefit my relationship?
BDSM has been known to strengthen relationships by introducing a way to one again, experience something new together.
BDSM can be a thrilling and exhilarating journey to explore an adrenaline rush with your partner. The only requirement involved is mutual trust and consent. You can read more about how BDSM can benefit your relationship here.
